Weight loss surgery to baby Feb update

It's already February.. Time is flying- So- a few weeks ago I was at a fellow staff member's home and saw a newsletter on the fridge talking about how we spend our time. It got me to thinking.. 1% of the average day is roughly 15 minutes. Do you spend 1% of your day working out? reading your bible? praying? working toward your goals? Often times when I say I just don't have time for _________.. I stop and think umm- is this important? If so then I make time for whatever... I mean we all have 2% of our day to take time for ourselves..


I had my 2nd appointment with the baby psychiatrist doctor this week. I was in a mood- first I was a few minutes late.. then the scales weight me in at 10+ pounds than usual... I told the doctor I thought his scales were crap- he says well, actually we occasionally adjust the scales to panic folks. Looks like it worked on you... Umm yeah, I did not think it was funny..  then he kept on with his humor- calling the baby (that is not been created) the "twinzies".. He thinks red headed twins would be so fun. I didn't really care for his humor- and he didn't stop calling the baby "twinzies".. I am rolling with it on the outside- but, inside I am like not one bit funny. Haha. I love babies but, the thought of having twins is overwhelming.. We did a lot things at the appointment- blood work and psych evaluation- He talks about stuff I never think about- like the plan to lose weight post pregnancy- He is committed to working with me. I guess I can get over his funny sense of humor.  haha.. I am totally off melatonin and using essential oils. I am a fan of Young Living essential oils- I hope to keep tracking my experience so I can share with you. I know to some folks it's hocus pocus- I understand. 




I have pretty "relaxed" about losing weight- it's been a while since i have made real progress. It's time to step on the train- and seriously finish what I started- how many times have I said that?? So, I am pretty much going hard core with weight loss the next 30 days. I have been making changes and not seeing weight loss- if this continues I will probably start checking in with doctors..  I need to do my part- tracking calories, seriously working out and and following the plan post surgery. 

My hubby John is a beachbody coach and has purchased the 3 day refresh for me. I start it Monday- Shakeology says: In just 3 short days, you can get your health, energy, and vitality back on track—all without starving. Don't worry, I am not expecting miracles- I think of it more like a cleanse. Then I plan to do a higher protein diet- which is what I am suppose to be doing.. I also am committing to 4 days of working out a week. I hope to do more.  I have worked to hard to not finish what I have started!!!  And, since I will gain weight during pregnancy- I need to be in shape before we get started.As far as our goals for 2015- we are standing strong. We finished our foster parent classes. We are eating better at home..  We are "gazelling" our way through debt. If you have not taken the time to learn about Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University- then let me step upon my soapbox- we did it as a part of our premarital counseling process- it is great. We got off track for about year or so but, we are more committed than ever- because we are committing to our budget we are able to travel and do things we had planned. By committing to our budget we are hitting our goals by decreasing debt- You can do it too!
So I know what you are thinking.. Rhonda is like one big networking scammer.. Haha. It's okay to think that.  More updates coming soon. Make sure you take time to make your goals happen!  

Mama said there'll be days like this...

Today was rough... Not sure if I can say why but, it was.. 

7:30 am..  Knocking on the door.. Is the babysitter early? Another solicitor? I put on my robe and a young

mans says "A man drove by and his tire came off and went through your fence." I look at him and I am like "what?" So, I go out in the back yard and find this. Call the police for a report...  Thank the Lord there was no in the way of the tire!!!

Then it was time.. Time to the doctor for follow up from you know that weight loss surgery I had three weeks ago.. He said "You are making great progress... 22 pounds since surgery is awesome..." We also discussed my problems with my adderall. Apparently, we need to adjust it because my body is not "processing" the XR component. So, I am not crazy.  I was diagnosed with ADHD a while back. You can read that blog here. My life is so much better with meds. I also can start working out for real in a few weeks!

Then lunch with my sister was a delight.  She is all grown up and studying Nuclear Medicine Technology.

And it's Wednesday. Therapy day. I enjoy therapy time.. Several things are going on with our family.. Please pray for us that timing of things will work out...  As for now- I will be thankful for the 22 lbs gone! 

Today is the last day of July... Tomorrow means game on for me... Summer break is almost over... 

Therapy..

Therapy.. It's been a God send.. It's really help me face some issues. Issues I didn't even realize.. 

A friend of mine confided in me that her daughter was diagnosed with ADD. I was shocked. I thought there was no way. So, I did some research. Research, along with my husband and my therapist we come to realize that I also probably have some ADD tendencies. I went to get tested recently. I am not just ADD but, ADHD.. Wow, me? "Is losing your cell phone, wallet or keys part of your daily routine? People with ADHD frequently misplace common items. (that was in an article I read recently"  Relaxing is really hard for me too.. Completing tasks.. And I could go on and on..  While part of me was sad to learn this- the other part of me felt free. 

I am a daydreamer. I have been a for most of my life. Lots of simple things were really hard for me. Paperwork- for example-requires me to be very precise about my organization. So many folks- say I am organized- but, I work twice as hard to keep up the "look". All the time doctors tell me how good I am at keep things organized and the ideal parent! I play the part of organized mama well. School was very challenging for me- mainly because I couldn't focus. It was College Algebra (3rd or 4th time) that I dreamed up my plan for the Life Made Simple business. Report cards were so depressing- I tried so hard and yet couldn't finish the task. The history of my ADHD goes back to 2nd grade. Probably earlier in life with all the day dreaming I did. 

My poor parents- I just told my mom recently. She was bummed that she didn't realize it for me as a kid. She says maybe I could have made life easier for you.  I shared this article with mom and told her this quote: “Often, if girls are smart or in supportive homes, symptoms are masked,” Solden says. “Because they’re not hyperactive or causing trouble for other people, they’re usually not diagnosed until they hit a wall, often at college, marriage, or pregnancy. A lot of things that are simple and routine to other people—like buying groceries, making dinner, keeping track of possessions, and responding to emails—do not become automatic to these women, which can be embarrassing and exhausting.”

I finally decided I would be successful in spite of my ability to focus in class. I didn't succeed in school. But, I love people. I love kids.. I love life.. I feel God has his hand in so many parts of my life.. However, lots of things were beginning to become very overwhelming.. 

My ADHD went into overdrive with the stress of motherhood. They say motherhood is stressful- special needs kids is a whole another world of stress. Appointments, organization of the girls  medication, school work, IEP meetings, recent hospitalizations,  therapy appointments, day to day tasks on top of my work- I then took on a new job as director of an afterschool program. That happen 3 weeks before I got married... The paperwork and detail became more important. I hit a wall- not a depression wall but, I needed help because on the inside I was becoming a failure at simple tasks while smiling and pretending success on the outside. Erica talks about it on her blog. I finally got help with time, therapy and medication --my life in my brain is getting better - I feel more organize, able to complete tasks, attention to detail and defiantly not as many private freak out moments.  I still wake up some days and freak out and hyper focus but, I recognize it-

So, you will read about ADHD diagnosis - I fall into some categories. Some don't describe me. I am not a person who struggles with depression- I am happy, outgoing and confident.. No longer do I worry about failing my family and not being able to hold everything together.

And yes, everyday- I get in the car and I make sure I have my sunshades, purse, keys and cell phone. 

By the way this diagnosis is probably key in me being successful with weighloss. :)  thanks for reading. Mama Rho